Here's to Being Black, Bold, and Broke

After a historically long hiatus – I want to start this journey of writing back up again. Fall forward into this fall season. 

So much time has passed since my last post and the time away was necessary for resettling into my life post France. That experience in general really has given me the tools I need for this next part of my life. 

Summer was great though and honestly, I’m sad to see it go. I love the sun, the late sunsets and the cotton candy skies. Now with fall comes the cold, which is a HUGE downside BUT the plus is being able to wear cute jackets before you have to choose between fashion or freezing. There’s also cider mills which give Team Fall people at least 10 points to their score, and the surge.

The surge, I like to think of it as a new mindset that comes with the fall season. It’s the realization that this is the final quarter of the year – it’s exciting as well as slightly daunting. It’s this energetic need to accomplish a goal, begin thinking of new goals for the impending New Year and ultimately recalibrate yourself. 

For me the surge couldn’t have come at a better time because as fun as the summer was, I didn’t do much other than be outside which was great. I got to experience more music like Ghetto Tech and dive deeper into House, but also go to more places like Niagara Falls. I ate some delicious meals like at the Spanish restaurant Downtown in Detroit, La Feria. It honestly made me feel like I was back in Barcelona with my sunglasses and in the sun getting full off of 3 tapas plates and yummy sangria. 

I’ve also met some more people, many very cool ones that I enjoy, really unique and authentic people with talents and creativity that is honestly inspiring.. so ultimately I can’t complain but now it’s time to lock in. Get focused and ride this surge out. 

One way I’m staying locked in is by being boy sober. Yes, I mean it, no boys allowed for the rest of 2024. Or at least I am going to try by best *insert salute emoji, it’s one I love dearly*.

This revelation came shortly after a stint with a boy that ultimately was no good for me and truthfully I knew it but hopefully some of you can relate, I was bored. You know, sometimes in your life when things get just a bit too quiet. And it’s like you’re doing good at preserving your peace, maintaining your happiness but like the crickets start to sound and it gets a little too loud. Truly ifykyk and so you pick up a boy as a little sidequest. 

My previous sidequests resulted in a dead end, a delusional mirage if you will. And so I have devoted myself to no more side quests if there’s a penis and I think it is for the best. 

It’s like right now, our generation makes dating so hard and sometimes I don’t know why and then sometimes I get why. We’re human and trying to figure ourselves out so it’s hard to know when to bring another person in.  What I will say is the dating scene is in dire constraints I fear, with little hope in sight for us girlies. And like I know that I’ll find that great connection again, hell even better, but also like the men to pick from… TOUGH!

By locking in though, I just have more time to get motivation for the blog, myself, and just getting more aligned with where I want to go and what I’m doing. 

I’ve set a couple goals including- securing a higher paying job because in this economy it is a MUST. This literally is the 21st century Great Depression and it’s crazy. 

I think post my birthday (which is iconically the same day as Beyonce), I’ve been showing myself a bit more gratitude, all that I’ve been through and really how much stronger and confident I’ve become. Something about this Jordan Year feels promising even though most say 23 is the worst age. I rebuke that sentiment and am determined to make 23 be pretty damn close to 22, 22 though may be hard to top. This time last year, I was waking up in my cute little town in France walking around the shops, grabbing Tiramisu from my favorite Trattoria and just meeting my students for the first time. I miss it all deeply. 

I still have goals and dreams to go back to France soon but for right now, as painful as it is to write, I am stationed in the United.. *dry heaving* States.. *gagging* of America. I plan to make a post about my opinions of this election because this one has been the most exhausting one yet. I have little hope for this country unfortunately but hey, most democracies only last 250 years, and I know we are nearing if not already surpassed our expiration date. 

In truth though, writing again feels like coming home after a long weekend away or when you treat yourself to something you’ve been craving. It’s been too long since I wrote again and I really do look forward to finishing this year out with my 10 regular Sims who read this. And know that I appreciate y’all. 

As far as what you can expect to read here in the coming months, I personally want to challenge myself on writing a piece about homelessness as that’s something I interact with daily through my work. I’m thinking about some fashion posts as far as what I’m into and finding and even some posts about music. My dating likes and dislikes. I’d love to do a post about likes and dislikes with each zodiac sign, that would be fun!  

Needless to say, I have some ideas and I’m open to any topic ideas as well, so please share. Well, thanks for reading thus far and I look forward to braving the storm of the cold season together troop.